What They Had

Ruth shows signs of dementia, including disorientation and amnesia, throughout the film.

Nicholas "Nicky" Everhardt tells his sister Bridget "Bitty" Ertz and her daughter Emma, referring to NIcky and Bitty’s father Norbert “Bert”, "... He’s goin’ out of his mind..." 
Bitty, referring to cigarette smoking: ”What happened to quitting?” (0:07)

Bert tells Nicky, "... I knew that you’d start smoking again..." (0:09)

Dr. Zoe tells the family, "... they are safer in memory care..." (0:11)

Nicky tells Bitty, "... I’m... traumatized." (0:14)

Nicky tells Bitty, "... the best memory care place..." 
"Memory care’s lockdown, dementia only. It’s a bunch of loons...” (0:15)

Bitty tells Nicky, "... You gotta be intuitive..." 
Nicky, referring to Rachel: ”She’s trying to get full custody of her kid...” 
”... I get to pick up Mom and Pop’s prescriptions...” (0:18)

Nicky tells Bert, referring to smoking, "It took you four heart attacks to quit." 
Bitty: “Just being honest.”
Nicky, referring to his mother Ruth: ”... she was drunk?” 
Bert: ”... th medication she’s taking.” 
Bert asks Nicky, ”Are you out of your mind?” (0:21)

Nicky tells Bitty, "... parents are worried sick...?" (0:25)

Bert tells Bitty, referring to Ruth and her friend Marion, "... Both battier than hell." (0:27)

Nicky asks Bert, "... What are you, Thelma and Louise?" (0:35)

Emma tells Bitty, "... crazy hovering." 
”... throw myself out the window...” (0:45)

Nicky tells Bert, "... This is silly... best memory care in Chicago." 
Bert: ”... That’s memory care... the best memory care...” (0:46)

Her contractor friend Gerry Hoffsteader tells Bitty, "... It’s smart..." (0:50)

Nicky tells Bert, "... you’re selfish... why they get better in memory care?... you’re losing your mind... they don’t remember they don’t remember..." (1:00)

Bitty tells Bert, "... she’s losing her mind..." (1:06)

Bert answers Ruth, "You got drunk at Christmas." 
”Oh, sweet baby... don’t worry...” (1:15)

Wake for Bert (1:23)

Ruth tells Emma, "This looks like a wake. Is this a wake?..." 
Ruth: ”... whose wake is it...” (1:24)

Memorial service for Bert (1:26)

Burial of Bert with military honors (1:27)